This episode is dedicated to my Dad x
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- This Episode is dedicated to my Father Mendel Louis Sherman who passed away July 31, 2020
- This one’s for you Dad xoxoxo
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Hi, this is Michelle Sherman, president of MichRX Pharmacists Consulting Services. And your host for the Conscious Pharmacist podcast episode today is a very special one for me. It is called lessons from my father, the joy of service to others on July 31st at 11:40 AM this year, my father Mendel Louis Sherman, also known to everybody and all his friends as many passed away peacefully after a long, long, long, long battle with health issues, dementia and other things which I’ll cover in our court cost here. But this port cost is very special to me and is dedicated to my dad to you, dad, for everything you taught me most important, importantly, the lesson of the joy of service to others. For those of you who have been ardent followers of the conscious pharmacist podcast since the beginning, I just want to take you back to episode 14 that we published on August 1st, 2019, it was called let’s bring kindness and compassion back into healthcare
Again, this, this port course was spoon on my dad. On July 17th, 2019, my dad fell and he cracked his pelvis and he was taken to the ER and the ER, doctor didn’t put him in the hospital. They popped him into a rehab facility to rehab to get better. Now, my dad had many, many health challenges. He really struggled and was a worrier for 10 years. And they stuck him in the rehab. He already had some dementia and things going on from, you know, previous brain injuries and things like that. Anyway a week into his rehab, nobody was watching him. They had no nothing in place to monitor him. And he got up in the middle of the night and he fell and he broke his hip on the other side and lay on the ground for who knows how long hours before they called my mom.
And this happened in the middle of the night and they didn’t get him to the hospital, which mind you, you could throw a, you could throw a rock from the parking lot of the rehab into the parking lot of the hospital. I told like 6:00 AM the following morning. Anyway, turns out he had a broken hair. He had to go through major surgery, get a titanium rod put in his leg. You know, the surgeon said, Oh, you know, that’s easy. You’ll be out of the hospital in two, three days and go to rehab where he was in the hospital for 11 days due to complications and things. And then was in rehab for three weeks, got home and was never the same. And within a year he was dead. So the kindness and compassion in some of the areas of healthcare is when we look at our patients and we look at our seniors, we have to take the entire patient into consideration, be kind, be compassionate and see what’s going on.
And these are lessons. My dad taught me, my dad, his downfall was his. I don’t want to say it was his downfall, but what caused many of his injuries was his, his will and his joy in helping others. And in a way that he used his body to lift things, move things, carry things, help people, help people, help people, so they didn’t have to do it. And he did it and his body took the beating from that. But one of the things my dad instilled in me, my whole life was the joy of service to others, which it has been my guiding light in my career. And the path that I have taken for my patients and colleagues is to, to guide people and serve people as pharmacists. We don’t look at what we do as a job. We look at it as service to others.
And when I look around at our society today, there is no time in history that I think a message like this is more prevalent, that things are not about self things are not about me. It is the us, the service to others and helping others. And our healthcare system needs needed more than ever right now. But this is a dedication to my dad who, who growing up, taught me the joy service to others for, you know, all these years of my life, helping others was his joy. And it became my joy. And we used to do so many things together. And I was very fortunate and grateful that I was able to, you know, help him through his healthcare journey, be there for him, work on his meds and things like that. So many people don’t have that luxury of having somebody who can advocate for him. My mom advocated for him. I advocated for him going to bed for him, right. To the very end where he was so comfortable and you know, that true angels of mercy or people that work for hospice, the nurses, the case managers, you were, you were the angels to not only to my dad, but to our entire family as a whole. So
I want to honor my dead because I want to share the eulogy that I wrote and said for my dad at his grave site you know, his funeral was on the 3rd of August and in the world we’re living in right now with COVID. We had 10 people at the grave site and we had his funeral on zoom, which, you know, worked out really well because my sisters who live in London and in South Africa, as well as family in Toronto and friends and family in Australia were able to participate in my dad’s funeral. And he loved people so much that I knew that would, that would mean a lot to him. And he was looking over us and looking over, seeing all the people that attended his funeral, not only the 10 people physically here in Costa Mesa, California, but also in around the world.
And that’s what my dad was. He loved people. He, there was nothing more important to him than his family, his friends and giving of himself to others, right. Until the very end. I’ll never forget, you know, just a few weeks before he died, where he was, he couldn’t even get up and we still ask him if he can help me do something. So that’s the kind of man he was. So I’m going to read the eulogy to, to my dad to share with all of you so that all of you know, what kind of special Manny is, he was, and you know, is looking down on us and guiding us through these trying times right now. So here we go today, we are here to honor Manny or one of a kind human being. I’m a, Guiver who I feel privileged to have had as my father for almost 58 years.
He was an extraordinary human Dean, a loving, devoted husband to a mama stale for the teacher, Nene, Haley and I, a grandfather to Cassandra Lawrence tomorrow and Liam, and a great friend to all who were touched by his loving kindness. His goal in life was to make everyone happy. And his motto was never fear. Man is here. And all he ever wanted to do was help others. Our family is humbled by the outpouring of love and support from around the world. And from those whose lives, he touched with his kindness and gentleness throughout his life to capture the essence of many. I will read the tributes from my sisters and I Jeanine on the 31st of July. My daddy left this world to join his mom and dad pops your faith and strength was an inspiration to us. All your determination to stay strong and to overcome any difficulties was incredible.
Your kind heart and spirit lives on. I love you, dad. Rest in peace. And my sister Haley in South Africa on the 31st of July at 1130 California time, you mom, granny Ray, tend to take you home. Just like she said, she was going to, with your heart of a lion, you taught me to be brave and strong when times are hard. And with your unbreakable faith in her shame, he told me nothing is impossible. When you put your faith in him, you fought long and hard to stay with us as long as you did. Thank you. Go well, daddy resting peace. You will be in our hearts forever and mine on seven 30, one 2020 of the exactly. 84 years in six months, you moved on to the next journey where you are now at peace and pain-free and able to walk and fly with ease. You were an amazing father, a gentle giant who taught me kindness, compassion, and the joy of service to others. Your strength and iron will got you through many times of unimaginable pain. And you’ve taught Janine, Haley and myself. The art of never giving up no matter what I will miss you in this plane. And my heart is broken, but we offer ever together resting peace. Daddy, I love you. Tense forever.
Dad. We know you are in a better place. You taught us everything we needed to know on this journey. And you took your last breath on Friday with mommy by your side. And you need talking in your ear, your transition from this plane to the next set, you free to travel the highways and byways of the universe. Pain-Free and carefree with all those you love and are connected to including all of us. What I’m going to miss the most is hearing Mitzi mix meats, Mitzi dead loved myths, because you always listened and gave him your undivided attention. He would always tell us he was fine. And his level of tolerance for pain was not of this world. When he and Mitzi were alone, he would always confide in her, how he really felt the first law of thermodynamics States that energy can never be created or destroyed the total amount of energy. And matter in the universe remains constant, merely changing from one form to another food. The proof that we are all connected, wherever dad loved. Cause if we think of this body, the vehicle he saw traveled in four 84 years and six months as a core, dad would say it finally packed up. As we lay your car to rest here today, your soul, your energy source, the universe forever, dead, resting peace. We love you tons forever.
I wanted to share my dad’s eulogy for all of you, because he was an extraordinary man who taught me the joy of service to others. Would that service to others? I have tracked and charted the course of my not only my career, but it is the course of my career and the path and the road that I travel every day, when things get tough and things seem impossible. The faith that my father had of never giving up, guides me into where I’m going. And as we’ve traveled this journey right now today, when times seem so uncertain in a world that we live in, seems to have gone quite mad. This compass, this moral compass, this guiding light that my father taught me of the joy of service to others and never giving up guides me in the work that I do. And while I can’t sit in front of him and have a conversation anymore, I know he is with me in my heart forever. And that guidance will guide me as I’ve moved through this journey of the next chapter of the rest of my life, without him in it, to serve others, to provide, help love kindness, and compassion to the people I work with to my family, to my patients, as I navigate the journey forward. I thank you for everything dead. And I thank all of you for listening today and remember
Kindness and compassion in our work that we do every day is us being the change. Thanks for listening today. And we’ll catch you on the next round.